I apologize in advance if this sounds trite, or if someone already said the same thing. I read the thread very quickly:
My approach to less than enjoyable band situations was to always find the thing to learn.
Playing in a wedding/tuxedo band was where I cut my professional chops. I wanted to be Geddy. I will not even repeat the set lists, but they were huge and I did not like any of it.
BUT.....I learned how to make the gig enjoyable for me. How do I play in a way that helps a lame situation sound better. In those couple of years, I learned how to take a weak band of average musicians and help them to listen to each other and make the whole better than the sum of the parts. Taught them how to listen to each other. I was 10 to 15 years younger than everyone else, but I made it work. And the Wedding Reception/Corporate/Country Club circuit is lucrative if you have good management, and we did.
The eventual benefit was developing a local reputation as a player, and THEN getting gig offers that I wanted.
Great advice, crbmoa. I'm gonna try to look on the bright side, and use it all as a learning experience. I've already learned so much just by forcing myself to learn these songs. Without being in a band, I'd never have any reason to really progress. And by forcing myself, I've discovered that I don't really hate some of these songs as much as I thought I did. For example, I've been pushing myself to learn Back in the USSR
, which is a song I've never really cared for. However, playing
it is proving to be a lot more fun for me than just listening
to it - which, let's face it, we've all done about 10,000 times. I don't really want to listen
to the Beatles (except to learn the songs), but playing
the Beatles can be fun!
It's now ok..........but i feel like it's not completely hard yet.